This is…

April 16, 2010 at 12:22 am 31 comments

more than a just a picture of a crappy water heater…

This is a vivid reminder to me why taking pictures and recording memories are so important.

See this is a picture of my mom and dad’s water heater…the same water heater that this past Sunday broke and flooded their cellar…causing my mom to call me, my brother and sister and beg for help….we in turn grabbed our children…and off to mom’s we went. There I found my 2 oldest nieces decked out in funky rain boots doing a bucket brigade while we ran around trying to find the main water shut off. During the next four hours my sister and I bickered as we usually do about what to do first and how to do it best…my brother put in his headphones in order to drown out me and my sister…we scolded my dad for wanting to keep a soaking wet vcr that was in need of repairs and he had kept for 10 years…and we vacuumed what seemed like endless amounts of water and hauled nasty wet stuff out to the yard…not exactly a fun day. But we were all together…and as we often do…we managed to find the lighter side of the situation…there was lots of work…but plenty of smiles and laughs. Once most of the chaos was under control I asked my dad to get his camera….and of course a few eyes rolled…but I told him that even disasters deserved to be documented.

Two days later on Tuesday April 13th my dad suddenly collapsed and died almost instantly…he was only 61.

Since that day I have cried more than I can ever remember crying before. As you can imagine my whole family was devastated.

But during this unbearable time of grief this picture of this crappy water heater has brought me some comfort….Tuesday after we learned of his death, we all went back to my mom’s where we sat and talked and consoled one another …at some point my sister said that this water heater was a blessing…it brought us all together unexpectedly for one last time…after she said it out loud more than one of us acknowledged that this thought had occurred to us as well…and as we sat there and tried to cope that day…I realized how special this picture was…I realized that this simple image of a rotted old water heater was now one of my most prized photos and that this one picture would tell a very important story…I knew then that this photo was as precious to me as baby pictures of my children or the last photos I had of my grandmother. Someday when the time is right and I can bear it…I will record this memory like I have so many others and I will treasure it.

So the next time someone asks you why you scrap…tell them it’s memories like these…simple moments in our lives that become memories we will have to treasure forever.

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31 Comments Add your own

  • 1. alisonm  |  April 16, 2010 at 6:02 am

    Darn you!, it’s 6am and I am sitting here crying. Thank you for the reminder that it’s the little day to day events that define our memories and those memories need to be preserved.

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  • 2. Patty  |  April 16, 2010 at 8:05 am

    Brought tears to my eyes. This is a very special story to be told. Hope you all can heal from your loss. Family is a treasure.

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  • 3. emerakdvalkyrie  |  April 16, 2010 at 10:39 am

    So glad you had this last moment. So sorry for your loss. Definately a poignant lesson to us all.

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  • 4. Amanda S  |  April 16, 2010 at 10:40 am

    {{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}}}}}}} and more {{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}}}

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  • 5. Christie  |  April 16, 2010 at 10:40 am

    You made me cry this morning. I am so sorry for your loss, yet also thankful you got to make those last memories. Take care and ((((hugs))))

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  • 6. Laura Bruynell  |  April 16, 2010 at 10:50 am

    What a sad but great story. Sounds like the layout is already done. {{{HUGS}}}

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  • 7. Teri  |  April 16, 2010 at 11:01 am

    I am so sorry for your loss! Thank you so much for sharing this story because I do take grief for taking pictures of what other family members think are silly. It is truely the little things that matter.

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  • 8. heather g.  |  April 16, 2010 at 11:17 am

    😦 oh sweetie….i’m so sorry to hear of your sudden loss. And yes, i’m sitting here boo-hooing…bless you and your family and thank God you had that day together because it was so important looking back. When you are ready to continue the process of healing by scrapping, i so look forward to a touching LO with the photo of the crappy water heater. ((((hugs)))) honey…if i can do anything, please don’t hesitate to call on me. I know we don’t know each other well but i’m here for you.

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  • 9. Kim  |  April 16, 2010 at 11:25 am

    Hugs to you Jennifer! You brought tears to my eyes! Sorry for your loss.

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  • 10. Laurie  |  April 16, 2010 at 11:45 am

    You write so beautifully – I hope that with time – you will be able to scrap this. So very sorry for your loss.

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  • 11. Veronica aka Miss Onigur  |  April 16, 2010 at 11:59 am

    Big, BIG hugs to you. I SO understand and have done the same, have taken a picture of what would seem like NOTHING to an outsider, but memories for me! Kudos to you for moving on when it isn’t easy. I will continue to keep you and your family in my prayers.

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  • 12. dleebug  |  April 16, 2010 at 12:04 pm

    I knew your dad had passed, I didn’t know about the water heater. What a blessing it was to get to be together one last time. Sorry for your loss. {{{hugs}}}

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  • 13. Shanon  |  April 16, 2010 at 1:10 pm

    I am so terribly sorry for your loss. Thank you for the reminder of why we scrapbook is so important to our families and how it can often help in the grieving and healing process as well.

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  • 14. Julie  |  April 16, 2010 at 1:14 pm

    Gosh, that story has brought me to tears. I am so sorry for your loss but what a blessing that photo and water heater disaster was. It really makes you think about how the littlest seeming things can mean so much. That is why scrapbook. Someday it will mean a whole lot to those we love. Hugs!

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  • 15. Dana  |  April 16, 2010 at 3:03 pm

    Jenn, I am so, so sorry for your loss. Hugs to you! Your story is so touching and you are so right – scrapbooking is a way to keep family memories alive and to allow us to express our feelings. Thank you for the reminder.

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  • 16. ~ Kim ~  |  April 16, 2010 at 3:11 pm

    That was beautiful …..

    Hugs friend.

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  • 17. Erica Hettwer  |  April 16, 2010 at 4:15 pm

    I am so sorry for you loss. 😦 I’m so very glad that your family was able to get together one last time.

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  • 18. Brittany Beattie  |  April 16, 2010 at 5:16 pm

    My thoughts are with you and your family during this difficult time.

    Thank you for sharing your story. It’s a great reminder of the blessings we receive through scrapbooking.

    Many blessings to you.

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  • 19. DragonFlyScrap  |  April 16, 2010 at 5:51 pm

    BIG HUGS! Prayers too for you and your family. i am so sorry for your loss.

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  • 20. Rita Mae  |  April 16, 2010 at 6:20 pm

    Hugs to you and your family during this very difficult time. I hope you find peace with God and that you all had a chance to be together in helping each other earlier.

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  • 21. stephanie Sajjadieh  |  April 16, 2010 at 8:08 pm

    Dear Jennifer,
    I’m so sorry for you loss. I, too, lost my father–he was only fifty–very suddenly. Nearly thirty years later I still miss him but it does get easier with time. I’m amazed that you were able to write so beautifully and lucidly.
    My thoughts to you and your family,
    Stephanie
    (MB ss1320)

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  • 22. melissa  |  April 17, 2010 at 7:45 pm

    Sweetie I wish I was there to give you a hug in person so I hope this will work {{{hugs}}}. I so understand what you are talking about. I take pictures and get grief as well but then some one will ask me for a copy or was glad I took it. I will keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers. I hope you the pain lessens however the memories grow stronger!

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  • 23. Stacey aka discoduck  |  April 17, 2010 at 7:49 pm

    Jen, thank you for taking the time to remind us of how important these moments are. You’re going through an awful time, yet you still thought to share your story. I’m so sorry for your loss and I’m so happy you will have a great memory to scrap when you are ready.

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  • 24. jen  |  April 17, 2010 at 8:58 pm

    My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family. What an amazing, spritual post! I am sitting here crying yet am happy that you have a fond memory of the family together.

    With love,
    jen

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  • 25. justbusyscrappin  |  April 18, 2010 at 11:34 pm

    I know exactly how you feel. What you have shared has brought my last memories of time with my mother back to the surface. You have realized a great moment and you will cherish it for the remainder of your days. It will not fade, it will stay clear in your heart and your mind. They say that time heals the pain … in a way, yes that happens. But then you come across simple things, this photo, a piece of jewelry, a book on the shelf, and the moment resurfaces and the loss is remembered and more tears will come. But always remember that you have the most prescious memories that will never fade that you will find comfort in. Your are in my thoughts and prayers and I am sending you a big hug to bring you the touch of understanding that is shared between us.

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  • 26. Stacy  |  April 19, 2010 at 12:37 am

    Just perfect, can’t say anymore.

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  • 27. Diana  |  April 19, 2010 at 1:56 pm

    I’m so glad you and your family were able to share that time together. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

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  • 28. Stephanie (froggy530 CK-MB)  |  April 19, 2010 at 10:19 pm

    So sorry to hear about your dad, what what a wonderful phot and memory this will be to carry forward for years and years to come.

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  • 29. Luv2talk  |  April 20, 2010 at 5:22 pm

    (hugs)

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  • 30. reneelamb  |  April 21, 2010 at 12:36 pm

    What can one say expect – lots of love and big big HUGS….My thoughts and prayers are with you, hun

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  • 31. Carolyn  |  April 26, 2010 at 7:24 pm

    I have been behind on reading your blog…..so sorry to hear about the suddent loss of you father, something we are never prepared for, (((((Hugs))))) to you and your family!! I loved the photo and story of the waterheater, and yes, we should scrap all of our moments, the sad and happy!! Prayers to you!!

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